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Melanie, Bird with a Broken Wing

Melanie, Bird with a Broken Wing

A Mother's Story
Author: Beth Harry

ISBN: 978-1-59857-113-4
Pages: 232
Copyright: 2010
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Gripping, raw, and beautiful, this book reveals the struggles and rewards of caring for a child with severe disability and helps professionals work more sensitively and effectively with families of children with special needs. Written with grace and candor by special education professional Beth Harry, the book chronicles the life of her daughter, Melanie, who was born with a rare form of cerebral palsy and died less than 6 years later.

Captivating the reader from page one, Dr. Harry illuminates the full spectrum of her parenting experiences—from the day her "little bird" came into the world to the day she left. Readers will come away with a deep understanding of

  • the complex emotions that parents experience as they adjust to life with a child who has special needs
  • the practical and emotional aspects of supporting a child with feeding difficulties, vision impairment, and limited motor skills
  • the joy parents experience when their child begins to communicate and make personal connections
  • the lasting impact a professional's words can have on a parent, and the need to provide positive support that allows a child to reach her full potential
  • the services, therapies, and interventions that improved Melanie's quality of life-and how they've changed since her story began in the 1970s

Ideal for use as a supplemental text in courses for preservice early interventionists, early childhood special educators, special educators, and health professionals, this book gives readers an unforgettable inside look at what families experience when their child has a disability—and how to meet their needs as their child grows. And, a Reader's Guide is included! Perfect for use in the classroom or in book clubs, the thought-provoking discussion questions help professionals absorb the book's lessons and apply them to everyday practice with families.

Eye-opening and inspiring, Melanie, Bird with a Broken Wing will leave a lasting impression and will, as Dr. Harry urges, prepare readers "to believe the messages of their hearts as they make professional decisions."

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Review by: Susan Lani Stewart, Community of Practice and Curriculum Coordinator, SpecialQuest Birth-Five
"There are many points in the book where I would ask the students to discuss the situation from multiple angles—maybe even do some role playing—and then think about how they might, as professionals, change how they interact parents as a result of the reading . . . [this book] is truly a gift to many."
Review by: Janette Klingner, Associate Professor of Education, School of Education, University of Colorado at Boulder
"A wonderful book! It is beautifully and honestly written—a true testament to a mother's love."
Review by: Sharon Vaughn, University of Texas, Austin
"A must read for anyone working with individuals with disabilities . . . a remarkable story told from the heart."
Review by: Karen Pape, Medical Director, TASC Network, Toronto, Canada
"This book about a child and her mother, written with compassion and insight, is a must read text for healthcare professionals."
Review by: Janette Long, M.A. special education candidate, The Ohio State University
"Anyone in the field of special needs and special education should read the book . . . it gives us a nice glimpse into the life and mind of a mother of a child with special needs. I would recommend this book to anyone."
Review by: Tara McCarthy, M.Ed. visual impairment candidate, The Ohio State University
"This was not just a story for parents, it was both a professional and a life lesson . . . the unfiltered emotional descriptions throughout the story, the heartfelt poetry, and the photographs of Melanie truly inspired me."
Review by: Megan Rutschilling, M.Ed. visual impairment candidate, The Ohio State University
"Shows what love, spirit, believing, and never giving up can do. Everyone should read it!"
Review by: Christina Woolard, M.A. intervention specialist candidate, The Ohio State University
"Outstanding . . . As I read this book I cried, laughed, and felt fortunate that the author chose to share her daughter with us. What a beautiful story of strength, hope, determination, and love. I would certainly recommend this book for future classes."
Review by: Jessica Ware, M.Ed. hearing impairments candidate, The Ohio State University
"Beth Harry has shown great courage and progression of strength through her ability to recall the events of her daughter's life and create such an inspiring piece of work."
Review by: Gail Ensher, Professor of Early Childhood Special Education, Syracuse University; co-author, Families, Infants, & Young Children at Risk: Pathways to Best Practice
"Instructive, compassionate, beautifully written, and truly inspirational—a must read for every student and professional who works with families and children with disabilities and special health care needs."
Review by: Robert Naseef, Psychologist, parent, author Special Children, Challenged Parents, co-editor Voices from the Spectrum
"This beautifully written memoir is deeply moving and insightful. With courage and honesty this mother struggles through her darkest moments which unfold into a profound connection with her child."
Review by: Penny Camps, Child & Adolescent Center, Trinidad & Tobago
"This exquisitely written memoir shows the awesome responsibility professionals have in appreciating and reinforcing a parent's hopefulness. Beth's interactions with professionals show how hope can contribute to or undermine a parent's strength, a child's development, and the family's enthusiasm in engaging the arduous but always fulfilling journey."
Review by: Batya Elbaum, Associate Professor, School of Education, University of Miami
"A moving and beautifully crafted memoir…"
Review by: Nancy Henderson, Exceptional Parent magazine
"The details in Harry's story are painfully wrenching and often quite riveting despite the familiarity of her ordeal, which many families of children with disabilities will understand."

Part I

  1. With a Whimper
  2. Melanie
  3. Empty Hands
  4. The Sweet Bird
  5. The Dream Is Me
  6. Crashing
  7. Gargling
  8. Choking
  9. Vomiting
  10. In Our Hands
  11. "Oh God! No!"
  12. The Bearer of Bad News
  13. Nestargel
  14. The Spiral Staircase
  15. Smiling
  16. Initial Assessments
  17. Seeing
  18. Interpreting
  19. Swallowing
  20. Invisible Chains
  21. Love and Faith
  22. Mummy Therapy
  23. A Very Sick Baby
  24. The Turning Point
  25. Sleep Feeding
  26. Thriving
  27. Naming the World
  28. Morning Has Broken

Part II

  1. Mark
  2. Seeking Another View
  3. The Forest or the Trees?
  4. Joan and Wendy
  5. The Shade of the Immortelle
  6. Bobath Therapy
  7. A Temporary Goodbye
  8. "Yes!"
  9. Back to School
  10. Magnificent Helpers
  11. A Happy Four-Year-Old
  12. A New Decade
  13. Dynamic Reassessment
  14. CT Scan
  15. Brain Gazing
  16. Mercedes and Elizabeth
  17. The Spreading Branches of the Immortelle
  18. A Fairy Tale Morning
  19. From Fairy Tale to Nightmare
  20. The Worst of Times
  21. The End
  22. She Looks All Right
  23. Good-bye

Reader's Guide

Excerpted from Chapter 31 of Melanie, Bird with a Broken Wing: A Mother's Story, by Beth Harry, Ph.D. Copyright© 2010 by Paul H. Brookes Publishing Co. All rights reserved. No part of this excerpt may be reproduced or reprinted without permission in writing from the publisher.

The Forest or the Trees?

        "Gross global brain damage with severe mental retardation." What more was there to say? "Gross global brain damage with severe mental retardation." The summary words of Dr. Wilmington's diagnosis rang through my ears like a death knell for Melanie. I was devastated and disbelieving. They could not be right, for her intelligence communicated itself to me at every turn. They could not be right because she had learned too quickly all the things I had tried to teach her. They could not be right because her eyes told me they were wrong. They could not, please God, be right because if they were, she would live a life so limited as to be almost useless. They could not be right because she was my child!
       How does a mother tread the fine line between what she sees and what she wants to see in her child? Where are the strengths and where are the weaknesses of the objective view of the outsider, as compared with the subjective view of the mother?
       I believe that the mother's advantage is that of intimacy, which allows her a depth of perception unavailable to an outsider. I knew, for example, that Melanie's difficulty in focusing her eyes often made her appear to be turning away from people when she was in fact trying to look at them. With the advantage of intimacy, I knew also that the little squeal that others might interpret as a cry was Melanie's version of a laugh. I knew that flared nostrils followed by a little yawn meant that she was emptying her bladder.
       But the mother's intimacy may also be a disadvantage. That intimacy made it impossible for me to see Melanie for the first time— to see her in her totality as a functioning individual who exists in the present and who compares in any given way to other individuals.
       Such intimate knowledge of my child, and in this I am no different from other mothers, made it difficult for me to see her objectively at any point in time. How easy it is for a stranger to say of a child, "This child is spoilt and throws tantrums," "This child is cooperative," "This child is bright," "This child is retarded." Easy because a stranger meets the child on a given occasion and forms an overall impression—an impression that may be valid but is one dimensional.
       The mother, knowing every stage that has contributed to the present entity, sees at once the present, past, and hopeful future and, in genuine confusion, replies, "Ah! Do you think so? Well, but, you see . . . ." Like the seasoned hunter, she cannot see the forest for the trees; she knows by touch each contour of the land but has no aerial view.
       To me, it did not matter that from an aerial view the parts of Melanie's personal jigsaw puzzle did not integrate to form an impressive overall picture. What I knew was each part, by detail of color, shape, and texture. What the objective observers seemed to be looking for was the overall impression—the gestalt presented by Melanie's ill-fitting and poorly coordinated parts.
       They observed, for example, that her comprehension of language appeared to be way ahead of all other areas of her development. Indeed, they made a point of commenting on this incongruity between her receptive language and her overall functioning. But they simply could not accept that such a mismatch could be true and attributed her comprehension to intensive repetitive drill on my part and consequent rote learning by Melanie. By rote learning, they meant learning that can only be applied within the narrow limits in which the lesson took place. In rote learning, there is no ability to transfer knowledge or apply it in new situations because it is learning that is mechanical rather than creative in nature, and is largely limited to the context in which it was first acquired. According to this view, Melanie's comprehension of language was, in the psychologist's words, a not very meaningful "splinter development."
       What effect did this devastating judgment by these professionals have upon me and my view of Melanie?
       I wish I could say that their words were only barely influential, that I knew I could retain my own opinion in spite of theirs. But I cannot. In spite of my own experience and observations, I was vastly influenced and depressed by these pronouncements. I think, in the long run, after my initial shock and astonishment, I gradually worked my way to a feeling something like this: I was not convinced that they were right that Melanie had so little potential for intellectual development. But I decided to face the fact that obviously she functioned as someone with severe disabilities regardless of what potential she might possess; and after all, how can one consider or describe potential in isolation from a person's performance? The fact was she performed at the level of a person with severe developmental disabilities.
       But the corollary to this of course would be, what then? Should I alter my expectations and thus, probably, my efforts and objectives to be more in tune with this terrible diagnosis? I believe that I could not help altering my expectations to some extent. I pride myself on being a realist who manages to cope reasonably well with crises because I take care to prepare myself by accepting whatever appears to be factual. I think I have considerable faith in my own judgment under normal circumstances, but I also have great respect for experience and training. It would have been very difficult for me to maintain my optimism without some encouragement from professional quarters.
       Fortunately, I did receive some encouragement. Sarah, Melanie's most admiring therapist, was convinced that her colleagues were wrong. She insisted, with no reservations, that Melanie behaved like an intelligent child severely affected by athetoid cerebral palsy, affecting all her muscular coordination including facial expression and speech. She lectured me severely on allowing myself to be influenced in my approach and insisted that I must aim as high as possible for Melanie and at all times expect comprehension. She reminded me of Dr. Karen Pape's explanation of how difficult it would be for whatever intelligence Melanie might have to break through the barriers of severe brain stem and cerebellar damage, and we regretted that Dr. Pape was away in England at that time.
       Like Dr. Challenor and my friend Pat at Blythedale Hospital the year before, Sarah recommended Bobath physical therapy as the most important treatment for Melanie, an approach in which a child is repeatedly put through all the normal developmental patterns of movement in the correct sequence in an attempt to diminish the abnormal reflexes of the child with cerebral palsy and to teach the child to exercise conscious control over her muscles. I doubted very much that I would find such a therapist in Trinidad but was determined to continue practicing what principles I had already learned from the OCCC staff and from Sarah.
       I have said that I was depressed and discouraged by the assessment that June. Yet I knew that I could never choose to do less than my best for Melanie. Her welfare and development had become the object of my life, and my own satisfaction and sense of personal well-being were now inextricably bound to hers. If I could work successfully with her, accepting her limitations but providing every possible opportunity for her development, then I would be successful in my own eyes and could live happily with myself and with her.

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